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Art of listening; education through experience; listening to children

Parent or Undercover Boss?

Have you watched the television franchise show “The Undercover Boss”?

It is a show where the boss (CEO) of a large company or corporation goes into the job site in disguise to investigate operations of his employees on a daily basis. He spends time getting to know the people who work in his company and learn about their personal and professional challenges. He later sits down with these employees and communicates his observations of their efforts. Great efforts are rewarded and action plans are taken to help those who are less productive.

As parents we can’t always follow our children to work or school and observe everything they do but we can communicate by asking the right questions.

  • What was the “best thing” or “worst thing” that happened to you today?
  • Who made you feel “good” or “bad” about yourself today?
  • What was the “nicest” or “meanest” thing someone said to you today?

Following each of these questions with “Why” can result in better communication and improved relationships.

By expressing interest in your child, paying close attention to their response, and letting them know you share their joy as well as their pain can be rewarding for both of you by building a stronger, better relationship.

Sometimes a smile that lights the face also warms the heart.

Learning doesn’t always come from a book!

So much of what I know today I learned standing behind the chair doing what I did best  for over forty years ~ styling hair. That was my college education. Real people, real experiences in the salon provided me my education.

It was hilarious because women never realized how their voices carried while sitting under the hair dryer. Ah! The joy of just listening. I later shared with my clients how they taught me about
Mastectomy
Vasectomy
Hysterectomy
Appendectomy
Marriage
Divorce
He left me and came back to me!  
Cheating
Teething
Spit-up and diarrhea….
the difference between measles, mumps and chicken pox
Good kids, bad kids
Single moms, single dads
Strong moms, weak dads…
The difference between a soccer ball, football and a baseball, tap shoes and snow shoes.
How to pitch a tent and build a campfire – Girl Scout leader
Prom dresses, wedding dresses
even how to buy a car!

Listening can sometimes be the best form of learning and communication.

Keeping an open mind with older folks as well as young children as they express themselves creates not only a glorious vision but a whole new world.Reading a book allows us many learning opportunities but to take the time to “listen” is just brilliant.